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Dealt w/ hubbys dementia over six yrs. but this last week I've snapped at him a few times. Dementia is not his fault! I've done pretty good up til now without anger! He asks if he can help me but he can't. I want him to be more mobile but he gets very tired even to shower/shave with my help. He's becoming more forgetful. I now have to monitor his meds very close. Literally making sure he takes what and when. He did it himself ok for a long time but since he took his a:m, 5:pm & bed time pills all together one morning & used his Anoro inhaler twice in same day & not once as directed (!), I have all meds out of his sight until I give them to him. He's becoming more demanding and I've forgotten to give him his inhaler twice and his 5:pm meds late. Drs. Appts. are out of the question during these virus crisis, or tests to check his memory decline etc. Our oldest adult grandaughter lives w/ us but he doesn't want her doing much for him. Last night I was tired of his childlike antics, said something snarky when he went to bed, I bit my tongue so I wouldn't say what I thought! Went to grandauters room in tears & shared that I felt like but didn't/ wouldn't say to her granddad " if you don't stop being mean, I'm putting you in a home"! Guilt is less than what I felt. She hugged me. I heard his sweet side from across the hall " I'm going to bed. Goodnight honey". I've fiercely relied on my faith. Especially in difficult days I remind myself & know that only God carried me through caring for mom during her battle lost to cancer, caring for my only son during the AIDS epidemic & dying at 34 yrs. old ( I was younger 25 yrs ago), & the passing of my younger & older sisters within 13 months. "Sister" the oldest, 2 mos. ago. I believe strongly that we will all weather the storm we are in today and am very grateful that we have this blessed site where we can share. I read more than I write. Find encouragement, hope and even laugh a bit. To be able to vent, be angry or even complain without fear of judgement or critisism. Thank you all for allowing me to "dump". I do attend a local support group now being via group telephone. Our time is limited, so here I was able to really let much out tonight. I'm not a chapter & verse scripture quoting kind of gal but would like to share two that have been foremost in my mind today remembered from my mom & a very dear friend. "No weapon formed against us will prosper" .
" My strength comes from the Lord".
Thank you again, God bless & keep you well & safe.

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I think this is going to be difficult for all of us. You have been through an awful lot. I’m so sorry.

Be safe and take care. Hugs! 💗 Will keep you in my prayers.
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I’m sorry for what you’re dealing with. I’ve found that even when we think we’re tuning out the incessant discouraging news on coronavirus it still remains in our consciousness and is a constant downer. The best therapy I know, outside of real therapy, is the outdoors. Please take time to go outside and take in the creation before you, look around and notice the sounds of birds “His eye is on the sparrow, so I know He watches me” the flowers “as God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers He will certainly care for you” the trees “we will grow strong like trees” the sounds of children playing “children are a gift” and sky “the lights in the sky shine down on the earth. Even a few minutes a few times a day can help. I hope you’ll find pockets of rest and peace
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