Are nursing homes really horrible? I've got to do smething.

Sandy, my heart goes out to you. Having a totally bedridden mom would be a challenge for anyone. Can you get her into respite care for a while (a week to a month), so you can breathe and relax and start to figure out what is best for both of you? I'm sure you'll get lots of good answers here, but I'd start by calling your local Area Agency for Aging. Find out what resources are available to you and your mom. Hugs to you for being such a loving, caring daughter.