My 96-year-old dad thought he heard the phone ring and picked it up. He heard someone say to meet them at a certain location. His companion's children were coming up that day, so he thought it was them. He also said the TV told him the same things. No one called. He and the companion disappeared for 3 hours while they had breakfast, waiting for companion's children who were worried when they were not home.
Are auditory hallucinations dementia-driven? When we asked what happened he shouted, "I'm not senile!"
If his hearing checks out (or in addition to hearing test), get an appointment with his medical doctor. Infections, blood chemistry imbalances, poor oxygenation... can all cause people (not just seniors) to misinterpret sounds or sights. His doctor can also check for cognitive function. If dementia is suspected, a referral to a neurologist to evaluate type of dementia and treat it is warranted.
Do not agree or disagree. You want him to know you are listening and that he is heard (shows respect and hopefully comfort to him).
Yes, he will resist / depend himself (he is scared and frustrated)
You want to remain neutral and keep the person calm.
However, if it is dementia - you need to intervene and acquire some legal authority moving forward. See an attorney.
Read / review these websites (and others):
https://www.dementiauk.org/information-and-support/health-advice/false-beliefs-and-delusions-in-dementia/
https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/stages-behaviors/suspicions-delusions ---- Alz Association: Call their hotline: 800.272.3900
I believe this is a question for your dad's medical provider.
Look at Teepa Snow's website and take her webinars / watch You Tubes.
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Trying to intervene can cause total distrust and make your job even harder.
I think I would encourage you to keep an eye on things and not say anything more to him, it's causing him to be pulled between his mate and you, she will win, she has his ear 24/7. I know it is hard to watch but, unless you plan on a court battle for guardianship there really isn't much you can do, except cause him to do something dumb, like revoke your POA.
I had to watch my dad make really bad choices and it cost him everything but, I think he was as happy as could be and that was what really mattered when it was all said and done.
Auditory hallucinations and visual as well can indeed be problems in dementia and my brothers first manifestations of his Lewy's occurred with phone problems.
You know, of course, that this is a matter to refer to doctor and to follow up on with testing for the sake of safety now.
If that checks out ok, then perhaps he may have some dementia, but unless he's checked out by his doctor/neurologist we and you can only guess.
Your dad is 96, so some mental decline would be considered "normal" at his age, so just keep an eye on him and have his "companion" keep notes on any more strange behavior he may exhibit as that can be presented to his doctor if needed.
I just read your second post, so I'm not sure that I would trust this "companion" with anything pertaining to your dad. How very sad that your dad tolerates her and her sons financial abuse because he's afraid of being alone.
To me it sounds like your dad would be better off living in a nursing facility then with the people he's currently living with.
Have you considered calling APS and reporting the situation you spoke of in your second post?