My sister lives with my mother to "take care of her." My mother's needs have grown significantly in the last year. She needs help bathing, dressing, and needs someone to clean, take her to doctor's appointments and cook her meals. My sister does not work and makes no money. My mother fully supports her. She gives her her bank card to use and my sister routinely abuses the privilege, claiming she asks my mother and my mother says yes. My mom will always defend her. My sister seems to think she she should be paid for basic household duties like cooking, cleaning and doing laundry. I just think that's ludicrous, especially given the fact that she contributes absolutely nothing financially and routinely spends my mother's money with no accounting for my mother's financial needs. Am I being too harsh? Is it wrong of me to think a family member should perform the household basics because a) they live in the same house, and b) it's their mother?