Since I'm caring for my 84 year old mother with dementia in my home, her new elder lawyer suggested applying for widow's benefits through the VA. My father did not serve in Korea (he was on Okinawa) but he DID serve 2 of his 3 years of service during the Korean War years. The lawyer implied that, once all of the paperwork was assembled & submitted, that the approval process would be relatively quick & efficient...like maybe a month or two. I have a hard time believing that since *nothing* the government or VA does is quick & efficient. Anyone have insights into approx. how long it takes between application & awarding of benefits? Also, I'm investigating nursing facilities so that I have my top choice & 2 back-ups shoyld the top choice not have an available bed when we need one. At least one of the local nursing homes will NOT accept VA benefits for payment. Would the VA be depositing money into her bank account that we can then apply to payment for the nursing home or would they want to deal directly with the home and that is it? And, lastly, I reviewed mom's assets with the lawyer & he never said they'd be a problem but some research that I've done suggests that, yes, there is a minimum amount they can possess at certain age levels & still receive VA benefits. True? And, if so, what's the minimum at age 84?