My husband was diagnosed with Dementia/Alzheimers in 2007 and is now progressing quickly. However, making it hard for me, he is still physically healthy, able to appear normal for a little while, go out to eat, use the bathroom and shower himself if I lay out his clothes.
But he is terribly confused! Sometimes doesn't know me, thinks we are in a hotel, and asks the same questions all day every day. He sees people that aren't there and is extremely paranoid thinking he's been robbed, or that someone is trying to get in the house and kill us. These are just a few of the many things he does.
So...at the advice of friends and family, I found him an AL that is very nice and he went for his first 4 hours yesterday. I thought it best to do a few trial times and put him in permanently on June 1st.
But after yesterday's 4 hours, he doesn't like it. Said I was dumping him off and why don't I just slit his throat when he's asleep!! I feel like forgetting it and keeping him at home but the people at the AL said I've actually waited too long and he's completely dependent on me. I know he does depend on me and won't let me out of his sight. Can't even go to the bathroom without him being outside the door.
I'm so tired, nervous about all this and I just don't know how he can stay there hating it so much.
I'm beside myself trying to do the right thing. But when we are home he is driving me crazy and I feel badly how I answer him. My patience is very thin....
I'd like to hear from others who have had to put someone in a home with a bunch of strangers and walk away.