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Even Spokeo won't have a current address if her address wasn't changed with the Dept. of Motor Vehicles. All you'll get from Spokeo and the like are previous addresses. When my bro took my mom then placed her in a memory care facility, there was NO way of me knowing where she was. I called Dept. of Aging, the police and Adult Protective Services. They all told me it sounded like a family quarrel and there was NOTHING they could do. I really hope someone has a better and helpful answer for you. Blessings
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Your best bet is to contact a lawyer who specializes in cases concerning the elderly. I am so sorry that this is happening to your husband and his mother, and I know you hurt watching them be torn apart. It is important that his mother's money be safeguarded if it is to be her only means of support; she may live a very long time and will need that. I'm sure a good lawyer can give you advice on where and how to begin. Maybe some of the women here have more advice, I've never had to contact a lawyer concerning mother. You might even search through the threads here and see if any of them are helpful to you.
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No substance abuse but she has some serious delusional issues. We know that there is some suspicious activity going on with the bank account and my husband did confront his sister. That's when her wrath(sil) was unleashed .Their mom was only out of the hospital for 3 weeks before the sister convinced her to put her on her bank account. Mind you, MiL couldn't remember where she lived for the past 6 years. Mil can make decisions but she is like a 10 year old. In and out of reality. Very sad what is happening to this great lady. Wouldn't you be concerned if someone was spending money that isn't theirs on themselves and their family? We are concerned that when the money is gone and it will be, what will be sil's committment to their mother's welfare. We will always be here for mom but what a travesty.
Sil gave my husband a bogus phone number. It's like she is trying to erase him from Mil memory. He only wants to talk to his mom. When he has tried to set up a time to visit his mom is conveniently not home.
My heart aches for him. My family is loving and supportive but he has always had a close relationship with his mom.
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Is the sister a drug addict or an alcoholic? Is the sister mentally incapacitated in any way? Can it be proven that she is stealing from your MiL's account for herself instead of taking care of her mother? Is your MiL allowed to sign anything or make any decisions with dementia? My guess is that you would be hard pressed to prove any of this. The most important thing, is she genuinely taking good care of her mother? If you are concerned about that, then consider a lawyer. If however she is taking good care of her mom, then ask yourself, how important is that money? More important than the relationships? More important than the chance to be with his mother?

If the only thing you want is the address, there are search engines online for that sort of thing that will charge you. With a move that fresh the results might be iffy. I like spokeo best and it's free to begin with. Heck they are down right scarey for all they know. You can also hire a private detective if you are truly afraid for your mother's health and life, he or she can get all kinds of stuff on your SiL if there is anything to be had.

I wish you all the best.
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