After recently joining this site, I have found great comfort in knowing I'm not alone. From all the posted messages and responses I've read so far I am recognizing things going on in my life with my mother and recently deceased father that had me guessing my worth as a daughter but I know now that I've been truly manipulated by their actions. I also hope that reading these posts (they have become my nightly go to reading) will maybe help me when I'm in my eighties to remember to NOT be demanding on my children, on their time, to respect their jobs because they have to work to pay bills! NOT to pull the silent treatment because I don't like something they said. Or the guilt treatment because I want something done. I gave life to two wonderful sons but I don't expect payback. I will respect them and their families and I WILL NOT live with them. I love them too much! Instead I will make plans or accept their decision as to where I should be as I approach the final chapters of my life and hopefully God willing I can.