Everytime I phone my mom these days I have to hear how she was up from four in the morning because of her IBS and she was on toilet or the caregiver had to come clean her cause she messed in her bed or her adult diapers is almost finished or she fell again in her room. We can't just have a normal conversation anymore. Its always about 'sh*t' excuse me for saying it like this. But it really is all she talks about. I just don't want to phone or go there anymore because we always have words. I do phone and I do go to her but I dread it.