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I live on Long Island, NY. I am looking to have mom stay for two weeks at an AL while I vacation with my grown kids.
I toured one and they said they no longer provide the short stay, that it will need to be 30 days. That is what I'm finding with another chain. Anyone know of any that will do it?
Home aides are not an option.

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Carolellen: You initially had posted that you were looking to place your mother in an AL for 2 weeks. Good luck, then.
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😂. Certainly not even close to saintly! I read alot of the posts from people here. Most times I can't believe that I have it a lot better than others. I'm grateful that she can still manage her own ADLs and that she can have a conversation. I'm hopeful that she will enjoy hanging at the beach house watching her grandkids and great grandchild swarm about. I noticed she just loves to be sitting in the fray.... then she naps ...comes back out , sits in the chair , eats then repeat!! As for me I intend on having plenty of beer on ice. My grown 20somethings will lend a hand. So if you hear a story about a grandma who's wheelchair was put on top of water skis ? You'll know who it was!! This will for sure be the biggest trip of her life! ( parents from the depression , did nothing for themselves!!) true I never wanted to take her, but now it sounds like I'm talking myself into it. And it's only for one week not two. Thanks for listening.
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Carolellen: Wow! All I can say is that you must be a saint to not only have your mother living with you, but also taking her on a two-week vacay! Good gosh! Do YOU expect to have much, if any, fun?
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Contact your local Area Agency on Aging, They can give you Caregiver Support and assist in finding a placement for Mom so you can have respite time.
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Hey Llamalover47
I just saw your question, I didn't realize to advance the screen! Ugh!
Anyway if I can't find another arrangement then I will take her with me. My sis in law offered to stay but mom manipulates so much by playing up her medical conditions ( heart disease) that She sucks everyone in. She loves to go to the hospital and get the million dollar work up. She's fine for a few nights but I don't have faith for much longer. We live together in a Mother/daughter home. But even that arrangement had only been one year. If I knew then what I know now. I never would have disrupted my whole life to move in with her( and my amazing husbands ). 20/20 hindsight right?!
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Check with your local hospice. They provide a respite service under Medicare, which is federal. They have a list of all short term facilities in the area, so should be able to recommend someone to you. They won't pay, of course, but I would think they could help with a referral.
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Carolellen: So the plan is to take mom with you?
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Thanks to everyone. A place for mom was contacted, they are unable to find a shorter stay as well. I suppose it can be a regional thing as previously noted above. I'll keep looking , I have until March.
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I, too, have used a Place for Mom successfully. The woman with whom I worked was quite helpful and nice. She only referred to certain communities, however -- I'm guessing that each area has arrangements with certain communities and not with others, but that's just a guess. The norms on respite stays seem to be regional. In the area in which my mom lives, there's great variability and many options -- she's in KC. One can get a respite stay for quite short periods if necessary. Taking your mom along is a lovely idea, and I hope that it works out well for you.
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PS A Place for Mom is a free service
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I got in touch with "a Place for Mom" and they were able to give me four different facilities to consider. Each facility has called me and I am in now in the process of setting up the schedule to tour them. I was quoted a price of $195 a day for memory care by one facility. This particular facility charges only $170 a night for a nursing care facility but it's located in Florida but I'm sure if you get in touch with "A Place for Mom" they will get back to you immediately with a list of places to check out. Good luck
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My husband goes to one when I need respite, both day care and occasional overnights. Hospice will have that information as they use them. Also, contacting your local area council on ageing or Alzheimer's Association may be able to help. My husband's is called Silverado and they are a chain but not sure if they extend to that area. Yes, it is a much needed service and, hopefully, it will work out for you. You definitely need the respite.
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Find a senior housing placement specialist because they will know all the places near you that might still offer a respite room. I’m in MN and many still do but require at least a 7 days stay. You might have a Area Agency on Aging that possibly could know too, but not sure. The placement specialist may require a small fee to help you because they are not paid unless the person is “placed” and a respite option is not a placement. Even at the facility their objective for respite includes this test drive of their facility with the hope of staying. Good luck.
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Carolellen. I absolutely agree w a service for seniors. I was trying to find a vacation spot or rental that would do just that - allow us to go together, but provide activities and supervision for when the person w dementia needs it and the carer(s) need a break. I see them in other countries. Maybe time to draw up a business plan!
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My dad stayed in a respite at a rehab facility where he resides. It was private pay about $300/day. He was recovering from pneumonia and his hospital stay wasn’t long enough for him, to qualify under Medicare
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Thank you. A few have told me that used to be done but most want that 30 day stay , it's about making $ after all.
So today I booked a very expensive beach house in Florida with an elevator and I'm going to take her with us. I'll bring along my sis in law to help. I figured we'd be better off spending the money (some of her money ) on that. It's still cheaper than the 8k for the month. I wish someone would make a sleep away camp for seniors!
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My FIL stayed at one for two weeks years ago when my MIL had surgery. But that was years ago. Every facility is different in what they provide and for how long. You can always search on the Internet for facilities closer to you and call and ask. There are group homes too that you can research.
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