Ok so some of you might know I care for my 87 year old grandma. She lives with me and I'm her sole caregiver (along with a helper who comes 3 hours a day to give me a break). She was diagnosed with viral pneumonia and congestive heart failure a few weeks ago. Does anyone know anything about pneumonia? I know ask your doctor but I have and its always so vague. Just claim tiredness and needing of liquids and rest. The doctor also told me the congestive heart failure was normal aging process and that it's mostly reverseable or at least treatable so she wouldn't have any symptoms at this time. Now I'm dealing with a severe dementia grandma who is walking, talking and quite fiesty at times. She is also quite strong but lately so tired. I'm talking very tired and falling asleep all day long. I expect that with pneumonia. The real problem comes in with food. She's holding food in her mouth and falling asleep. She's forgetting to swallow. i remind her to swallow and she doesn't do anything. Sometimes she nods but doesn't swallow. I have tried massaging her throat like you do in dogs. I have tried tipping back her head slightly but sometimes that makes her angry. I have tried massaging her cheeks, holding her hand, reminding her, faking a bit or a drink. Is there anything I'm missing to help? Can a person get so tired they forget to swallow when they eat and seem not to be able to until they choke? Can a person get so tired they refuse food? Is there anything I can do to help because she's a diabetic and I can't just not have her eating or she'd die from low sugar. Any advice on this issue I'd love to hear.