I have POA for my father, he lives in our guest house. Sister lives out of state. She used to call him once a week now she calls him everyday since he fell. She is in denial over his dementia and constantly argues with me on the subject. I finally had to set ground rules and asked her not to talk about our father's care as I am extremely stressed out and stress brings on my seizures. Well that didn’t work. Everyday she tries to micromanage my caring for him. I was sick in bed today and she said get your butt up and go check on dad. Which I find strange as she didn’t even want him to live with her. Maybe it’s her way of feeling like she is helping him? I don’t know. I had always hoped she could be supportive from a distance and we could be a team in our fathers care. I’m finally seeing she is more of a burden than a help. It’s so sad. We’ve never argued this much in our lives. Sure we are sisters and we have had our disagreements but nothing like this.
I hate to say it but my father is driving a wedge between us, even if in his dementia state he doesn’t know he is. He calls her and complains about me. He also calls his sister (my aunt) and complains about me. How I’m trying to take his license away (I currently have his keys) etc etc. I feel like I have everyone against me and I just can’t deal with the stress of him on top of everyone else. I finally had to block my sister from texts and phone calls. I first told her I really hate that it has come down to this but I have to do this for my own health. Nothing else has worked.