With co-morbid conditions including morbid obesity, severe rheumatoid arthritis, asthma, long-term emotional abuse by ex and live-in sons. My sister is facing an immense surgery and is frozen to accept available help. Does anyone have experience with 1. Scoliosis surgery in elderly with co-morbid conditions, and 2. Family dysfunction with live-in adult sons who are abusive (who she believes are her moral authority because of her heritage)?