My dad has been in NH for 2 years, after having privately paid all the money from sale of his house and is now on Medicaid. He is now in process of being discharged due to an undesirable dementia behavior. NH claims (1) dad is a danger to other residents (he is not violent, he says inappropriate things - very common dementia behavior; (2) NH can no longer meet his needs (no idea how this is so). Trying desperately to find an attorney to help me fight this but apparently it is a very "niche" area, very specialized. I have read everything I can find on the subject myself, but do not feel confident appealing by myself. They mentioned discharging to two of the lowest rated homes on the Medicare website. He is currently in a 4/5 star rated home. Have not received written discharge as of yet.
I am single and work full time and live with constant guilt. No one believes it would be a good idea for me to quit my job, rent an aptmt for the two of us and try to care for him by myself, but I cannot let him be placed somewhere that is actually known for abuse of its residents. Currently NH is 15 mins away from my home and his elderly brother and sister and nephew and I are able to visit him weekly, but if they move him far enough away, he will have no more visitors.