Hubby and I are mid 70s needing more assistance. planning to move closer to a daughter (at her invitation ) and therapist recommended it would be too isolating and we should consider some kind of assisted living so we could enjoy the support and activities. problem is we are rather solitary people and like our privacy. Our preference would be for a cabin on a lakeshore rather than a nice condo with gourmet meals. Now we do know better than to opt for total isolation so the cabin is out but the idea of close neighbors is not something we want to get used to however "good for us" it might be deemed. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy personal interactions but in small doses and really enjoy helping others and don't allow myself to be taken advantage of. if i see a need and am able to fill it i am only too happy to reach out but if someone expects me to solve their problems because they are too idle they are SOL. hence having a trusted daughter supervise us is the way i want to go. I promise i will give up driving long before anyone needs to enforce it. I don't want to be 'encouraged' to join activities or meals I like to peek in the window first to see what is going on and them decide.
Anyway I am just looking for general ideas not anything really specific yet so would appreciate all info, general and personal experience. Not ready to leave contact information.