I recently joined; this seems like a great community, and I'm very thankful to have found it! Seems like we're all in the same, or very similar, boat.
My question is how to deal with the guilt and anger? I have a lovely, wonderful FIL. He has Stage 4 cancer and is living with us, and I'm glad he's here instead of a care facility. He needs to be here, and he deserves the best care we can give him - and it's just my husband and I, no siblings are helping. But we've been caring for him in various capacities for YEARS. Long story that I won't go into now. We rarely go on vacation, never plan anything, etc. However, a major milestone anniversary is coming up for my husband and I, and we planned a lovely trip. And then had to cancel the whole thing after Dad's newest diagnosis.
Now, I know that it's terribly selfish to be angry about that, but I AM angry, and then I also feel terribly guilty for being angry. Ugh. I swear, I'm not a selfish person by nature. So why do I feel like this? I mean, I'm not the one dying of cancer, so I should just focus on Dad, right? What is WRONG with me??
Thanks for listening to the whining.