I had spoken to my dad about this, caring for him, for a year or so before he needed me. When he was in rehab my sibs and family assumed he was never coming home amd had made plans for assisted living.
When they found out I was bringing him home, at first some said O.K. We will help. The nursing home was releasing him with or without me. He can't live alone so I said OK when he asked. Evidently I ruined plans of looting and some had already started. Grandkids included. I live 2 hours away, they live here. By accident I found out what was going on. I caught one member filling a box. Anyway, some how I am the bad guy. I ruined their plans, swooped in, and took control of all assets, etc. So they even disclude you from holidays, and don't visit Dad because they are mad at me. It hurts, it adds to burnout. I can't believe none of them have even visited. Except my brother. He does what he is able. Makes me sad, to watch dad suffer. I offered it to anyone who wanted it. TY for this site.