I have given all three of my grown children strict instructions that I do not want them being a caregiver for me or there Dad, I took care of grampa at 28 till I was about 35 with my grandma, I worked for IHSS for 5 years with 2 patients different days of week when I was 40, and had a job at Target, I took care of FIL for 3 years when I was 50 and the most recent; 82 year old for 2 years, she's now with her son. And now my cousins dad has penal cancer and I will not go over there because I'll feel bad and get sucked into it again, I know it seems harsh but I'm done.. I'm in my 60's and so I put the law down with my kids. I even wrote a paper out and my friend will notarize Wednesday , in case I get stubborn in my later years. Does any one else feel this way from caregiving.. my kids are upset about it but I believe it's my gift to them because I love am so much and can't imagine them halfing to do that for me. I hope that I don't get to old and go in my sleep around 68 yrs old.. honestly I smoke and drink coffee outside of course so this is my plan.. never to be a burden.