Can't see how getting care in would help. He is getting weaker every day and the hospice nurse comes once a week just for support but I dont get any real help and I cant imagine getting care in would be very useful as they cant be here all the time. He is in a wheelchair mostly and goes to the toilet a lot now. I am trying to persuade him to agree to get a carer in to wash and shave him. A nice Filipino male I hope! I thought I might get an electric bed as he cant get up in bed easily but he resists any change! I thought the hospice would be more help but they dont have respite or anything really useful I have found out. Perhaps when things get worse?!! ( I am in the UK).