Mom is 85 yrs old, retired at 80. Lived on her own until moving to Florida to live with brother & his husband in Dec 2014. Very independent, always wants to pay her way. Can be "bristly" at times but alert, oriented and engaged with other family members. Recent conversation with brother revealed intent to increase what they "charge" Mom to live with them since their cost of living has gone up. Brother's husband saw Mom's bank statement and told me that her SS payment was enough to justify charging Mom more. He feels that since he is with her on a daily basis, he deserves to be compensated as companion, chef, driver, etc.
Sister & I are upset as are our husbands that Mom is being "charged" anything. Mom has always been generous in "helping out" and we feel that should be enough. We are also concerned that Mom may need this money for future care.
Any other ways to think about this would be appreciated.