I guess I'm looking for some emotional support from you all. Here's why. My mom is in India in a senior citizen community. This community is good only as long as mom has all her faculties intact. She's 82 and getting forgetful, walks very slowly and has mild diabetes. I want to get her a green card and come live with me here before she gets worse. She has visited me many times and runs back to India after 2 months because she misses her lifestyle/friends there. Both she and I hate the thought of getting the green card process started - it's a step closer to losing her independence. The process of getting her birth certificate for the GC is very complex and I'm dreading it but I will do it somehow. Both mom and I get angry when we are around each other 24/7. Since she is forgetful, I have to constantly check on her, help her into the bathroom/her laundry (she gets confused with washer/dryer) She will not take the GC seriously and insists on going back after 2 months. She is also now expecting me to pick her up from India and drop her back there every 6 months since she gets nervous on long flights. I will not be able to vacation with my family here since mom will either refuse to come with us. Even if she comes, she will insist that I stay back with her in the hotel and not see the sights since she gets tired quickly. I work here only p/t but she gets nervous when I am out (but I could get an elder sitter for this, right??) If I let her stay back in India and get her a home aide, my relatives will criticize me a lot. I have a sibling who is in another country and refuses to discuss mom's long-term care. My question: anyone cared for their parents in another country? Did you call them daily to check on them?? Did you get them here and just deal with whatever horrible situations cropped up? Thank you so much.