I am an only child. My parents moved down the street from me 15 years ago. I wasn't real happy about that but my parents were cool and independent. After a few years they began having a lot of arguments and I ended up getting pulled into the drama as a marriage counselor of sorts, trying to keep the peace. Well, fast-forward a decade and dad ends up with dementia and now is in a care home. Keep in mind, this is all before they even turned 80, so not talking about super-aged here. Dad is now in memory care and mom leans on me too much for emotional support. My parents have lived in this small town for over 40 years and she has no friends (doesn't want any), no hobbies, no church or other group affiliation, no family, just me. I am only 52, have a husband and a more-than-full-time job. My life is more than busy and full. My husband is very social and we have a big group of friends. The pressure to be responsible for my mother's happiness weighs heavily. She is a real Debbie-downer personality to begin with, always has been. I'm stuck, probably for many, many years into the future. I feel guilty any time I am doing something for myself or having fun. I always have a dark cloud looming over my shoulder :( When I was a teenager I suffered from depression. After I got out on my own, that went away and I believe it was due to getting out of the depressed household of my parents. Now I feel those shackles back on me. I want to run away. Moving myself is not an option and she's threatened suicide if I try to move her to a senior apartment or anywhere at all.