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My aunt is the caregiver for my grandma and is only having her live in the home to take advantage of the money. Not too long ago my grandma was unsupervised and had a stroke and got a really bad blood infection. My two cousins live at the home and didn't even check up on my grandma. Well she got worse and now she has been diagnosed with parkinsons and alzheimers. Recently, my uncle went to visit her but was denied the ability to see my grandmother. My cousins and aunt called the police and lied about my uncle being violent. Ever since my grandmother had the stroke, her health has been going down hill. She looks like she is deteriorating and seems to be drugged up all the time. Im thinking they are medicating her to keep her sleeping for most of the day. My aunt has a full time job and my cousins sit at home and do nothing. This past weekend, my aunt decided to move and take my grandmother elsewhere and has forbidden my dad and the other siblings from knowing where she relocated to. Is there any way that my grandma can be taken away from my aunts care? Who do I talk to? How can I fix this? I really think she should go to jail for negligence of an elder. My grandma should not live this way and should have a healthier and more peaceful environment to live in for the rest of the time she has in this world.

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Your Aunt's behavior is considered in the legal world as " undo influence" . If she is not the POA/DPOA or any other legal designee, then she is not entitled to keep her loved ones from seeing her. It also is elder abuse and kidnapping to take a person away and not let anyone know where she is. Certainly , this should be reported to the Department of Health and Adult Protective Services . Better to do the reporting and investigating than allow your grandmother to possibly be abused/mistreated. Get her the help she needs and deserves, and thank you for being her advocate. This goes on every day, unfortunately and shamefully.
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jdizzle428, I wonder if your Grandmother's daughter had moved her mother to a nursing home. Do you know if the other siblings would be upset if that had happened?

If yes, sometimes the person doing the caregiving knows when it is time for a parent to have a higher level of care.... caregiving isn't easy, it is very physically and emotionally draining.

Were any of the siblings helping out the sibling who was doing the primary caregiving? Helping out, meaning more than just visiting. That in itself can put a real strain on the family dynamics if siblings live close enough to visit but not roll up their sleeves to help out.

You mentioned that "my grandma was unsupervised and had a stroke"... please note hat Grandma could be in a room filled with doctors and nurses and still have a stroke. So, don't blame your Aunt and her children.

I hope you can find out where Grandmother is now living, real soon.
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Dear jdizzle,

I'm glad you are trying to look out for your grandmother. Can your other aunts and uncles call social services? The police? They can check on her welfare and remove her if she is in danger.

If your gut feeling is that something is wrong then definitely purse it. You have a lot of legitimate concerns about the quality of care your grandmother is receiving. And you are brave for speaking up and asking these questions. Your aunt should welcome any and all family involvement.

I hope you can get the help you are looking for.
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Do you know who grandma's doctor is? Best to start with a call to APS.
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I don't know but she probably is.
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JD start with a call to Adult Protective Services. Is auntie dearest grandma's power of attorney?
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