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With my hydrating her, she can go for 2 hours and a bit longer before the pull up is wet again. She feels it coming out but can not verbalize it and mostly never does unless she is standing. She will motion her hands toward her pelvic area...we wobble to the bathroom and 90% of the time she has already gone. But how can I go for longer stretches and NOT Risk getting a restaurant chair wet or the seat at the theater if sometimes our planning flopped and we could not get a bathroom break in prior to the activity? I Have diaper doublers and inserts but it seems pull ups still leak. I use Tena. Is there a better brand? My fear is a BM and that fear keeps us home and possibly missing an event.

Truth, from your previous posts, you’ve had this issue with Mom for a while, haven’t you? I know from experience with my husband, who pees like Niagara Falls because he takes diuretics, the only thing that keeps him dry is frequent changes. I think I may also have mentioned to you once about the pull ups being too loose? I use adult overnights on my husband and they’re heavy when I change him! They do a good job.
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truthbetold Aug 24, 2018
Ahmijoy, I read through my old questions while trying to understand what options the website contains and decided to follow up with Bicycler who mentioned weak leg muscles and wanted to know more.
With peeing. I change the pads after just one pee, but maybe i don't have to. I lift the pull up higher so it is more snug around the leg and so far that has helped with some ghost pees.
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Check out the Abena Brands. I get them for mom for overnights as she is a heavy wetter at that time
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I don’t have much advice, but I do sympathize with you. On more than one occasion on outings with hubby, he’s had explosive bowel movements. Once at my son’s home that took 3 scrub downs of the bathroom to eradicate. And once at work that he either was too.embarrassed to admit to or, as he claims, he didn’t realize how bad it was that got him fired from his job.

Now, when we go out on very rare occasions I literally carry a diaper bag. We don’t go to moves, restaurants or bars any more. I never know how what he eats will react. Any seasonings or spices on his food can have disastrous consequences. It’s a very sad but true fact of life now.

If Mom longs to go to a restaurant, bring Chux pads along. There are also waterproof briefs I’ve seen on Amazon that go over the incontinence brief.
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Something else that will help prevent accidents is scheduling bathroom visits; if she 'lasts' 2 hours on average, make it the plan that you assist her to the bathroom every 1.5 hours regardless of if she has the urge to go or not. As is often the case with incontinence by the time someone feels urgency or that need to go, they need to already be ON the toilet.

If she has difficulty going 'on demand' as it were, her urologist can discuss ways to manually stimulate voiding her bladder by teaching her how to massage her abdomen.
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truthbetold, when my dad started leaking with pull-ups still relatively dry, I discovered it was caused by his loss of leg muscle and the cure was found by experimenting with various pull-up brands and sizes and, as you've done, by using inserts. Good, sturdy chair/bed pads are also helpful.

Due to frequent bowel accidents, I always take an emergency bag with all the essentials. It is an unfortunate reality that there is always risk involved on every outing -- to minimize the consequences of the risk you can be fully prepared, but eventually even being fully prepared comes in second to reducing the number and duration of outings. Now our outings are pretty much limited to medical appointments -- attending family events are a thing of the past, which is okay because the family he mostly remembers is his mom and dad who are long gone.
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truthbetold Aug 24, 2018
THank you, Are you saying that the pull ups were still kind of dryish but his pants leg is wet anyway? DO you think it is because once the pull up gets a first soaking, then it won;t be as quick to absorb another pee episode because the pull up has already been soaked at the area near where pee comes out so it simply rolls out the side of the leg elastic since it did not get absorbed. But what about weak leg muscles having to do with this. Can you elaborate a bit more?
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