Mom has early dementia and lives in India in assisted living housing. She has 2 aides and is generally cared for 24/7. Mom keeps telling me no one visits her and she is all by herself. I keep reminding her that the aide is sitting next to her and she does go for walks outside and attends (rare) events at the senior center. Then mom will say 'sorry...I forgot"
However, I think mom misses being around her children's family and the daily bustle that happens around a household. Also, the other senior members are younger and more fit than mom and do not visit her at all. Relatives in that same city stop by but mom forgets about their visits.
I have been urging mom to go eat in the main dining hall so that she can be around other people but she refuses. She says everyone eats faster and she cannot keep up with the conversation. So she eats her meals alone in her house, with the aide next to her.
Mom stayed with me her with for 4 months last year and I was exhausted with the caregiving and constant repetition. I am not in a mood to bring her back again here.
My phone conversations are now shorter. Mom does not tell me what's going on there and I have to do all the talking. I call her twice a day and it's more to just check on her .
She watches TV, reads the local paper a little bit and then just sits on the sofa till its time for her walk/meals.
I am doing my best to relieve her monotony from here but she forgets everything and says no one's around her...
So what else should I be doing???? Thank you