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I had to place my Mom because the money was running out. Because she was further away, I chose to visit every other day. Since the residents always looked clean I allowed them to do her laundry. I used their doctor. They had eye doctors, dentists and podiatrists that visited the facility. Activities all the time. They supply their toiletries and Depends. So no more shopping in that respect. I just visited.
Now, time for you to have some time to yourself. Please don't feel guilty. Neither you or your husband did anything to make this happen. Enjoy what you have left of your life. He is in his own little world now (my daughters words). You need to enjoy yours.
Unfortunately, as we’ve said before, there is no reverse gear on dementia. His disease will only get worse. If you research the other posts by caregivers on this site, you’ll see that sometimes those who go into it with the best of loving intentions can wind up on the edge of a breakdown. Keep in mind that at a facility, your husband will have three shifts of caregivers, around the clock.
Placing him in a facility takes planning. How to pay, filing for Medicaid, touring facilities, Speaking with his doctor for guidance isn’t a bad idea either.
Good luck and come come back with updates.