I am the caregiver for my grandpa who is going to be 80 soon. My boyfriend of 12 years and I moved in to his house about 6 months ago when he was released from a rehabilitation center locally. We are about to have a sit down with him to re-visit the whole agreement between us regarding his care, housing, pay etc. so I was hoping to get some opinions about what would be fair to both me and my grandpa.
Here is some basic info He is almost 80 years old has bad knees, bad balance, uses and 4 wheel walker or a cane and is pretty close to deaf. He is also a severe long time alcoholic - he went into the hospital last July after a fall caused by intoxication - due to the fact he lived alone the hospital wouldn't release him and put him through a med based detox program - he became delirious and was sent to a rehab center after a week at the hospital - he spent 3 weeks at the rehab center and then came home. He refrained from drinking for a little while but he started up again and continues to drink daily.
What I do for him
all other shopping
yard maintenance (3 acres)
take garbage/yard waste to dump
deep cleaning of the house
set up weekly pill box
remind him to take his pills
go to any and all doctors appointments and take notes
go through mail
get newspaper and mail each morning
get dinner together
monitor his alcohol intake(started this 2 weeks ago after hospital visit)
bandage skin tear injuries that happen
research items he wants to sell
sell the items for him
wash his hair occasionally
install safety devices (as needed)
special tasks (writing out cards to his friends, printing out photos, etc)
*The part that is a little stressful is if he decides to drink too much I have to pay very close attention to his risk of a fall. This continues after he goes to bed because he gets up several times during the night to use the bathroom. There have been nights that I didn't go to sleep until 3 or 4am because of this.
There may be more but you get the idea.
a small room downstairs that shares the space with the laundry facilities incl a bathroom *He does not allow us to use the kitchen to make any sort of food - he cooks his in the microwave or I have to go to town and pick up fast food.
Utilities (house is all electric water is from a well)
As it stands I receive $300 a week
I do not get compensated for gas for my vehicle
I pretty much am working from when he wakes up to when he goes to sleep and even longer the nights that he drinks too much. If I do leave to run an errand for myself I am on-call no matter what I am in the process of doing.
He is very difficult to deal with and talks down to me all the time, is down right disrespectful to my boyfriend, and is a very mean person more often than not so it's not just a day in the part being around him - but he is my grandpa and I love him.
What do you think?