This is such a long story. There is no love lost between my siblings and me. I was caretaker for both parents until dad died 6/2017. Sister had money to afford attorney. I went legal services pro bono route. No lawyers would take the case. My siblings are highly abusive physically and mentally. Sister won case (long story) got guardian and ad litem for mom and had me evicted from family home 12/17. Then placed mom within the first year in locked down facility nursing home. Parents Will specifically states no nursing home. I was chosen POA and medical decision maker. Judge over ruled parents decision and gave guardianship and finaicial/medical decisions for mom to my sister. She put mom on Medicaid and bragged to everyone but me that home was placed in a trust. She didn't update me at all about anything concerning my mom or her medical care. I was refused visitation until she went into the nursing home.
Now, mom passed away 5/15. My heart is broken. But it's time now to execute the will. I am executor of the estate. They tried to change the entire will..but they had mom declared incompetent and it couldn't be changed.
The lawyer who did the will is retiring and only in his office 6 hours a week. He referred me to other attorneys due to family fighting.
They took/ threw away/ gave away all items in the home after I was forced out. They have taken items that are NOT theirs including my moms wedding ring as soon as she stopped breathing. Sister pocketed that as soon as she flatlined. Literally.
This is a heart breaking story of greedy siblings who viewed their parents belongings as their inheritance that they "earned".
I am still numb from losing mom, shock and disbelief at how cold and uncaring my siblings are. They are significantly older then I am. I came along 14 years and 11 years their junior.
I am disabled myself living off of SSI. $770/ mo income.
My parents built the family home from the basement on up..little bits here and there. They don't want to see it go to strangers. I am the only child with any sentimental attachment to items and the home itself. I would like , as my parents wanted as well...to see generations of our family grow up and celebrate holidays in this once happy home.
Sister lives in the home half of the year...and drives my parents car. Even tho the judge said she could live there as long as she was caring for our mom.
Do I need to evict her?
How do I get the house keys, car keys and info regarding financial matters??
I am very worried she isn't current on the utilities and taxes.
The lawyer who drew the will up (is also county attorney and is retiring).
I need some good advice and will honestly answer any and all questions. Im flying blindly here and need advice asap.
I can't afford a new attorney. I was moving from our small town to the city when Mom passed away. I currently am staying temp basis with my daughter who lives 65 miles away from family home.
My siblings have slandered my name & character in the small town until going to the grocery store gave me more anxiety than I can explain or even rationalize.
I've had severe depression coupled with anxiety and its made my medical situation so much worse since my dad died.
Please help...I need advice on how to handle this matter asap.
My siblings play dirty, viscious games and I am afraid for my phyisical safety. My grown children have begged me to just give everything to them and simply walk away. They are afraid for my safety. But my parents made their will...it was their final wishes and I believe it should be honored. I love my family and honor that connection. But enough is enough. The abuse has to stop. There has been significant physical and mental cruelty directed toward me and my now grown children.
I want to move forward, grieve for the loss of my parents and honor their memory as best as I can. But I need advice on how to proceed.
Thank you in advance !!