We have been living with and caring for him since my mom passed 5 years ago. Til now it’s mostly been that we do all the house and yard work, finances; basically everything but he cared for himself. He’s slow and not super steady but ok. This weekend he took a huge downturn. Sunday after church he could barely walk and seemed exhausted. I had to basically carry him in to his chair. He later fell off the toilet, I got him up but later he fell and I could not get him up... it’s like his legs won’t hold him at all... he said he felt like his body was super heavy. My nephew (dad’s grandson) was on his way over for a visit so we got him up. Sundays always seem to tire him but this was much worse. Monday morning I called his dr who told me to take him to ER for an evaluation. They did a bunch of tests and said the only thing they found was what they think is the beginning of pneumonia but not bad and they sent us home with antibiotics. But today he seems weaker and he fell three times today (mild falls, only damage was a scraped elbow) but now suddenly he is incontinent! This has never happened! I changed him 5 times since last night; tonight I bought Depends and he didn’t fight me on it at all so I know something is very wrong. He also seems - confused. I can’t believe this is all from a mild pneumonia. Of course I realize any illness is hard on someone his age but this seems like such a huge drop in his condition! I am calling his Dr first thing in the morning and will try to get more answers (we have an appointment next Monday but obviously we can’t wait til then) I just wonder if anyone has seen this in an elder in their care? Could the pneumonia cause this weakness and incontinence or should the dr be looking for something else??