Mom 91 yrs old wants to appear in a good light to others, but snipes at me when alone or on phone. Mom pretends or believes we are the best of friends. She has trouble telling the truth or knowing the truth, I'm not sure. Not because of dementia but unhealthy coping skills.
She has caused me profound trouble with my siblings. More on that another time. My anxiety level is extremely high in dealing with her. Something that has caused my anxiety to lower significantly for the last couple of weeks is to not be alone with her or speak on the phone unless the speaker phone is activated and she knows my husband is on with me. She has maintained her sweet and pleasant persona because of this. Phew...for now.
Any ideas on what to answer her when she asks, " honey, can you give me a call so we can talk and catch up with each other?"
[ Implied: when DH is not on the line ]
Snipe: shoot at someone from a hiding place
Fawning: displaying exaggerated flattery or affection