I have contacted many agencies, finally got mom on minimal state service of 6 hrs a week. I usually use that time to take care of food shopping & vital errands, and squeeze in contract work for a bit of pay. But CG's often don't show, without telling me, and then mom is left home alone in danger. Also state does not allow you to choose hours and flexible schedule for needs that arise.
At night I'm in bed for less than 5 hours, and care for mom when she has issues during night. I do the heavy yard work, cutting down trees, fix roof, tile, any repairs, while cooking, cleaning, figuring out how to problem solve bathing, transport, etc
I want to practice what I preach about self-care, but it seems near impossible. I have asked everyone I know (but I know less people now because of my situation). I used to be very creative at problem solving but sleep deprivation changes that..so ideas?
A neighbor just helped devise a board w/straps to put under sofa cushion to hold mom down so she doesn't fall. (Medical staff etc only advised buying a heavy foot padded recliner and belting her in, but no money for that, and place is small.) That gave me hope!
Thanks in advance for any ideas