My mom has moderate to severe dementia. I have two siblings....neither of them have had hardly anything to do with our mom for decades. I am the youngest of all of us. For the past three months I have been staying with mom 24/7 every day. No break at all. Because she had three falls within a short amount of time within one another, I have not had a full night's sleep since being here. Every noise I here, I fear it is her, getting up without calling me. I get out of bed very early (4:30-5:30 a.m.) just to get coffee in me and be awake if/when she gets up. She forgets to call me when she gets up, so I walk/pace back and forth to her room to peek in and make sure she is still asleep/is not getting up. This is my life now.
She doesn't even know who I am most of the time, and then when she does "remember" me, she says that she and my (deceased) dad only wanted two kids and when she (as she put it.........) made the "worst mistake of her life and got careless and had me" they gave me up for adoption. This never happened. I deal with confusion/frustration/agony/depression/sadness everyday. Throughout the years I have always been there for my mom. I have for years and years called her everyday, sometimes multiple times each day; I have bought her things she said she needed; I even bought things and sold things for her on Ebay helping make money for her, knowing she was much more well off than I have been. Since I have been here, for weeks she called me by my sister's name and then when she finally "knew" who I was, all of this "unwanted baby" stuff comes up. She even said earlier today, "Do you see the people who adopted you very often?", right after I got her out of bed, to the toilet, and seated in the living room, with her breakfast. Any advice?