My mom has been developing dementia for a while now, but I don't know how to get the diagnosis from a doctor; her primary care doc offers no support and it's quite difficult to speak to him alone. She gets extremely defensive if I ask anything and refers to it as people trying to say she's crazy. All her doctor tries to do is send her to mental health doctors, (which she won't go to see anyway) not telling me why or letting me know if that's where I start in obtaining a dementia diagnosis. That's my 1st dilemma. The next one is heartbreaking; the other day I was on the phone with her, she's in assisted living, and she started getting upset, telling me she couldn't talk anymore and that when she did, she couldn't say what she was trying to. I didn't know exactly what to say. I told her she needed to keep trying and that I understood her when she talked. Any advice on how to help her? She's becoming delusional as well. I feel like this disease is totally consuming her quickly, and I guess I'm looking for help in how to help her. Any advice? Anyone?