Three of us sibs live in town, the fourth on the opposite coast. Mom is 87 and has a long list of health issues and needs moderate assistance with ADLs. Mom lives with my sister and I am one mile away. Sis takes care of many of her in-home needs (she has VNA 2 days/week as well), and I do all of the out-of home cares (which at this point is about 2 full days of doctor's appointments/week). Both Sis and I work full time - I work weekends and overnights so have off days mid-week. It means that I am available to take her to appointments but it also means I never get a day off (and neither does my sister.) The local brother contributes almost nothing, the far away brother even less.
Does anyone have any thoughts on how I can better engage the brothers? I've spent a long time angry about the dynamic and I really do want to change it in a productive way. I don't want to carry negative emotions any more. I just plain need their help.