86 year old father in law with a lifetime of untreated OCD is making our daily life miserable. He has a constant never ending stream of requests and demands, we think he unloads on us to somehow feel less anxious himself? He absolutely refuses meds or treatment of any kind. It’s like he transfers his anxiety about medications, food, doctors appointments, laundry, groceries ….the list goes on and on….directly to us all the time with repeated requests in person and with texting when we are at work. We have tried to set boundaries, create schedules, but he just continues to harass us repeatedly (OCD) about every single thing he wants us to do. Here’s the thing. We are both plenty competent and we absolutely meet his needs….but then he starts in on obscure tasks that really don’t need to be addressed in the moment leaving us on edge and fighting for our own space and time to live our own lives. Any suggestions?