Hello, I am new here. I took the Caregiver Burnout Quiz and I scored in the highest category. So I joined here to get some support.
I care for my Mom age 85. Slow physical and mental decline. She moved in with me 3 years ago. My house is very small and we are always in each other's way. She will allow 2 hours of home health aide per week to help with her showers, that is all. I do the rest, plus work full time. I have no social life left whatsoever. Even family members stay away now. I have no support.
This week, she gave a cold calling phone scammer some of her personal information, so I've spent the whole week trying to put out that fire. I was thinking of calling her community social worker to get more help to come to the house but I know my Mom won't allow it. She won't go to day care program and refuses to go to a nursing home respite or assisted living situation.
Everything is a fight/argument. Sometimes I get up at 4 am just to have some "me time" in my own house. Any advice?