My dad is in an AL facility. We moved him there after my mom, his primary caretaker, died unexpectedly in February. My mom told us for years that his doctor suspected he has dementia. I took him to a GP right before my mom passed and my dad didn’t pass the minicog. He couldn’t draw the clock. We explained all this to the AL facility when we applied two weeks later.
My dad has very little short-term memory. He asks the same questions over and over. His personality has started to change and now he’s saying inappropriate things about the workers (they have nice legs and other inappropriate comments about body parts). I never heard him say things like this to anyone before. The AL head nurse said because dad only has “worsening cognitive decline” in his file and not a dementia diagnosis by a neurologist that they have to treat it like he is saying inappropriate things on purpose. She did say he’s shown some cognitive decline, but when given a minicog there she said he passed.
They are having another psych NP see him next week and we are trying to get a referral for a neurologist.
The nurse said he would be good for memory care if we can get a diagnosis but if not then they will search for places that take seniors with behavior issues. I’m totally scared since my dad just got comfortable there.
Anyone have experience with this? They put him on an antipsychotic drug to help with the inappropriate comments but it’s not working.
He also has incontinence and wears adult diapers. Sometimes he forgets that he uses a diaper and tries to go to the bathroom. It is particularly dangerous since he is in a wheelchair and can’t walk or transition by himself.