I hear alot of people talking about their parents hoarding. My mom is an obsessive anti-hoarder. She's constantly buying things (clothes, cellphone, home phone, TV), then returning it or giving it away because they clutter things up or she can't figure out how they work. She keeps secrets from me (even though I'm the one she calls when she needs help), so I usually discover these things weeks or months later, usually by accident. If it's a big purchase, she enliss help from well-meaning but uninformed people. Last week, I discovered she bought a used car that "her friend" (40 year old man who works for the utility company) found for her. He's "going to buy her old car - making monthly payments". She doesn't need to be driving, so I was going to let her old car die gracefully without replacement....now she's back on the road, driving way too fast. She just loves this guy because "he really understands what it's like to be old and lose your freedom".
My questions: 1. Is her 'buy and return' system a dementia thing?
2.How do you deal with "helpers" (when you often don't know they
exist? When we stop one "helper channel", she just finds
3. Are these behaviors normal aging, or a sign that she needs
assisted living or 24/7 supervision ?