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Besides his hearing, or lack of, my father is in ok shape. Yes he is slower, many things he cannot do anymore. I have always helped in any way I can. In the past year or so as his hearing has worsened, he has gotten very hateful and angry. It is like he thinks he is boss not only at home but anywhere. Example- I recently had to have surgery as an outpatient. He and my mother came with me, (I am also recently widowed). He got into a shouting match with a woman as she tried to park where he was standing, he thought he had the right to stay put until I circled the lot for a vacant spot. I had no idea until this woman comes up behind us to say how rude he was and he threatened to hit her. His words were "you get outta here before I knock your teeth out" I was so shocked, my father has never been so terrible. He wanted to argue with this woman and repeated his threat until I got between them and told him that is quite enough! He was so angry with me at this point he pulled both hands into fists and the look in his eyes was just awful. I try to ask him where is this coming from, it has become a nightmare to take him anywhere as you never know what will set him off. He seems to think his behavior is perfectly in order. And the language he now uses is so not the father that raised me. He seems to be angriest with my mother and myself. We are the 2 people closet and was the most patient. But these out bursts and anger are getting scarier. I also hate the way my mother has been putting up with this. His health is not bad for 86, he has a great DR. and sees him often. It seems that the less he hears the madder he is. My mother and I have shown great respect for this man and let him know we too are effected by his hearing. Difference being we will do anything to try to keep him involved in any conversation as best we can. This angry man is not how I want to remember the father I so love. Please anyone? Any ideas?

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Bevg58, another thing to check, has your Dad been placed on any new medicine in the past year? Sometimes one can have side effects from different meds, and some people are hyper-sensitive to the fillers used in pills which can cause all sorts of problems.
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My dad had very poor hearing, but was never aggressive about it. I don't think hearing loss would cause your dad's change of behavior. It sounds like something else is going on. It's possible he's had small strokes known as TIA (transient ischemic attacks) which can change behavior or has the start of dementia. You need to get him checked out ASAP by a doctor who specializes in the elderly - a gerontologist if at all possible.
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I agree with Pam, there is something more going on then just a hearing loss.

My Mom's hearing has been fading for many years and now it is very hard for her to understand what we are saying.... she's at a point where new hearing aids won't help.... but she has never gotten angry over this, she is just as sweet as she can be, a tad frustrated over her hearing loss as anyone would be, but she has accepted it.
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You may have not noticed his memory losses, but it's pretty tough to miss an aggressive outburst like this. It looks like the beginning of something serious, loss of control warrants a closer look at his health and what medications he is on. Steroids can make a temper volatile. Talk to his MD.
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Did I not mention he has 2 pairs of hearing aids. The damage to his ears is so bad they now no longer work at all.
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Hearing aid?
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