I am in my third year of caregiving and just turned 59 (so I had to update my user name. My dad's health is worse, he obviously has dementia. He is having problems thought processing and the short term memory is going, going. . .not completely gone but on it's way. I do not use the "D" word with him, when he makes comments like "I'm losing my mind," or "I'm going crazy," I usually reply, "You're mind is getting a little slow." He has now announced that I am trying to make him believe he is "nuts" (not my word, that is what he calls people with dementia/Alzheimer's.) Continuous pressure sores on his bottom he will not change position or get up, gets upset if I remind him. Have I mentioned he is 6' 4" and almost 300 lbs? I can't move him. I am tired of the negativity around my home, people have even said there is a negative vibe here. So I make sure he is fed, takes his pills, is dressed and then go about my day. I no longer get bugged if he wants to spend half the day at the kitchen table, not worth arguing about, I go about my chores and check in to make sure he is not on the floor. More often than not, there is little conversation. Getting me angry is a control device for my dad, I finally told him I am not afraid of him anymore (that only took about 40 years!) I felt new, empowered. I respect him because he is my parent, but he demands it. We call him King Farouk!! I wish he could respect me. Does anyone else have the angry, demented senior? I have heard there are happy ones out there. Thanks for listening to me, sorry to complain but sometimes, you gotta get it out. Is this just me?????????????