I'm quadriplegic and need assistance. Am I wrong to ask for help from my siblings who live with me and pay nothing?

What is indifference now might eventually turn into abuse. Consider all your other options, seek advise from both medical and legal professionals.

wow that's a bad situation and if they are living or free is seems like the normal and right thing to do is to help you.

Is this about your family's refusal to contribute money to the household. or for the lack of care you seem to think they are responsible to provide to you?

If you want to insist your family pay rent, that is well within your rights; just bear in mind that if that occurs, you are now responsible to them as any other landlord would be. Are you able to do that? Or are you looking to barter living expenses for care? Because that's never really a idea that works out well for either party.

You say: "I dont ask for much. Just make sure i have my meals, meds and to be bathed. I have a purewick system so i don't have to be changed (only when i have a BM)."

Ummm...in my mind, that is QUITE a lot you're asking for. That sort of sounds like 24/7 care to me.

If this is legitimate, maybe it's time you sold all of your properties and looked into nursing home care. If your siblings were to come here into this forum and write their side of this story, what would they be posting about you and being burnt out? And the family dynamics have just added ANOTHER person to be cared for (older sister just became legally blind)...

I'm sorry that you've been dealt this hand, but I really think you're expecting more care than your family is able to give. Now I think you need to bring in professionals, even at the sacrifice of selling your properties, in order to get the care you clearly need but feel you aren't receiving.

Good luck.

Are you the John in your profile? "I am caring for John, who is 57 years old, living at home with arthritis, hearing loss, incontinence, and mobility problems." Why didn't you mention quadriplegia?

I find this a bit difficult to grasp. You are a quadraplegic – can’t use your legs or arms? You spend most of your time on your phone or tablet? You have 6 relations living with you in your property and you pay all the bills? Your relations refuse to collect their pension entitlements? You are able to support them all?

Something is badly wrong here.

In your county there is an Area Agency on Aging office. Call them and ask they come do a needs assessment on you and your family members to see what services are available.

And maybe some of the responsibility is yours. By allowing them to slide on paying their own way, you are decreasing the quality of life for all of you. I hope you call and see what help is available.