For various reasons my 4 siblings and 2 nieces live with me (I'm on disability and have a small pension. I also own a 3 flat). They have no income. My oldest sister takes care of me, but she doesn't want to. And the rest feel the same way, except one sister who just recently became legally blind. I'm single, no kids or friends. All I have is them. I'm tired of being the only one paying bills. The blind sister wont collect her pension (even though she hasn't worked in years) or try to get disability. My oldest sister doesn't want to collect her SS. She is 67. I'm the youngest at 56. My brother has mental issues and can't understand simple instructions and my other sis cooks for me (She doesn't want to). I know I should kick them out, but I wold be all alone. My nieces basically ignore me. My other nieces and nephews won't help either.
I don't ask for much. Just make sure I have my meals, meds and to be bathed. I have a purewick system, so I don't have to be changed (only when I have a BM). Otherwise, I'm on my phone or tablet watching movies, paying bills or sleeping. What can I do? Does it seem like I'm asking for a lot?
I am so sorry that you are going through this. My problems with my Mom don't seem so bad against what you have as an anecdote here. I can offer you something that will definitely change your situation... and that is prayer. Just because you need company does not mean you should be taken advantage of. Where is the concern and humility in their hearts for you? Im not sure if this is allowed but if it is and If you want you can email me. I will certainly be praying for you so look for a change. There is no situation too hard for God and He is listening and watching all the time. When our family members fall short ... God still cares.
There's a term for working without pay for room and board. It's called slavery. Or indentured servitude.
Room and board is not a fair trade for 24/7 caregiving services.
Tell the relatives that they will all be paying rent so that you can hire aides 24/7, or at least 18/7, because you need help with all your adls despite your present capabilities. If they don’t, you will have no choice but to sell the house and move to an al community.