I've recently beeen diagnosed as quadriplegic. I have never married or had kids. My siblings (5) live with me. They live rent free. I ask them in exchange, wash me, feed me, give me my meds and get me in and out of bed into my power chair. They tell me "No."
I have to pay my niece $20 an hour to help me. She comes in the morning, washes me, feeds me, gives me my meds and gets me out of bed in one hour. She comes back around 5:00pm and changes me, feeds me and gives me my night meds because no one else will. In between the times she comes I sit in my chair and watch TV. I get nothing to eat or drink. When I ask, I'm told "No. I'm watching TV. " "No, I'm try no to figure out why my remote won't work." "After I clean my room."
" Why do you bother me in the morning." " No, my fingers need a break. " " I'll feed you but I won't give you any meds or tea." " I'll feed you today, but don't bother me tomorrow."
I want to put them out, but I can't be alone as I can't do anything for myself.
Am I wrong in asking for their help in exchange for free room and board?
I am the youngest at 54. They are either 60 or approaching 60. I realize changing me and getting me out of bed might be a bit much for their age. I am not small any more. My meds have made me heavy (approaching 200lbs).
I've asked in exchange for changing me and getting me out of bed (hoyer lift) give me $200 a month to help with finances. We are living off of my 401k (which is dwindling) and I pay for everything.