I was a caregiver for my grandma. I was supposed to move in and just keep an eye on her. My grandmother was too cheap and didn't want to hire a caregiver and that was not communicated to me. They just keep on saying that they can't find one. They know I have a timid personality and know how to intimidate me and treat bad into making me feel guilty. Fast forward a month they started to make me do more than caregiving duties and I had to pay rent. It wasn't as high as the bills that I had, but I still loved my home. I was just supposed to stay at night and I was promised that I will be relieved. The first time I was relieved was to help out my sister and that was hard work and I was kept all day. I told them in the beginning we had this trip planned and they were okay with it. They were aggressive and told me to cancel the trip like I had no choice. My grandmother would criticize me no matter how hard I worked and she and the family would talk about me being lazy and needs to do more like I wasn't there. I had mow, garden, fix things. Days I was promised to be relieved I would be ready to leave and grandma would say that she would have to get in the chair and fix the ceiling fan herself even though my family was there to help and I had no idea it was getting fixed. I told her that I was going to finally take a day for myself because my mother promised me I could. My siblings and other family members were there but it wasn't expected of them to help. I am working overtime hours and a caregiver. My siblings would listen to my grandma complaining and would attack me and I would defend myself and they said they didn't want the drama but I told them then don't attack based on her over exaggeration since they're always saying they know how grandma is then don't listen. They told that they didn't think I would be such a baby about. I also told them if they really feel like the closet needs to be reorganized then they can do it themselves since they are allowed straight sleep and go home to their own lives. My grandmother would not be happy now matter how much I sweat for her and I had no one to talk to because no one wanted to hear it. She even made false accusations of elder abuse and her arm would bruise up so easily and my sister would question me about it so I left and told them they can do it if the think it's so easy. My family tried to beg me back and say they realize how hard it is and how mean grandma is even though they were splitting up the duties between four people. They hired a caregiver a week after I left and even someone to mow the lawn.
Fast forward a few months, my sister scared away two caregivers. She tried to scam away the house but was easily forgiven. She doesn't have to work hard as I did and she gets paid to so it. She was getting praised by the family friend who bullied me when I was doing it. She didn't want another caregiver because she wants to get paid more and stay there. My grandmother still gets the bruises on her arms but it's not my sister's fault but she tried to get the second caregiver for abuse over them.
I have been coming over more but my sister tries to call me out to stay with grandma all the time and help but I do not feel comfortable being alone with her. My sister keeps on setting these appointments and tries to call me out to watch so she can go but she rescheduled them when I don't say yes. It makes me uncomfortable because I barely feel comfortable going over there to visit. She also says I will have to step up more soon when she takes her kids to school
I want to tell her she knows when she has to be at grandma's because it's the same every week so she should set her appointments accordingly and if she can't meet her duties then they need to go back to hiring a caregiver because I don't feel comfortable doing it. Am I right to say that?