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Adding....you turn over 85 to 90% of your paycheck to your BF - are you serious? Is he some kind of pimp? Why in the world would you work at a paying job, turn over most of your salary to him, and then act as a slave to his GM?

Something is very, very wrong and unbelievable about this situation. If you spend that much time on GM, how do you have time to work for pay?
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I can hardly believe what I read and can't help wondering if this situation is really true. It's hard to believe that in this day and age someone volunteers to be a virtual servant to a BF's GM, then wonders whether she's overreacting.

As others have written to similar posts, indentured servitude and slavery were abolished decades ago.

Without any further discussion, if this is a real situation, get yourself out of there and get a real job. Allowing yourself to be exploited and literally be a doormat is ridiculous.

If you want to be a caregiver, work for an agency and get treated like a real human being.

If you don't have the self esteem to stand up to your so-called BF, then get help from a group that treats emotionally abused women.
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There is no reason she shouldn't pay you for your time, my mother pays me! And at 103 yrs old I am thinking you and her children must be senior citizens yourselves, and caregiving is hard work!
First, decide what you really want. Would you like to continue to be there for her if you were better paid or if you had time off, or have you had enough?

If you want to continue to care for her I would begin by making notes on what you are doing, how often and for how long. It doesn't matter that you can return to your apartment if you are really not free to go out and are still on call. Make note of what outside caregivers would be earning for the same duties.

Once you have done that then approach whoever is responsible and tell them the arrangement isn't working out for you. Let them know that you love to help but feel you are being taken advantage of, then state your case for what you want, they will either have a hissy fit or see the error of their ways. Once you come to an agreement (if you do) make up a caregiving contract and have everyone sign it, that way there can be no dispute about anyone's expectations.
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