My mom (87 years old) is in a memory care facility. Her notion of time is gone. Sometimes she 's very sharp, some others she's delusional. She was a proud woman, she still is. I don't think she would like to be seen as she is now. Some times she told me so. One of my cousins told me she would like to visit mom. I refused saying I'd like to weight the for and the cons. Pure instinct. I feared that mom won't remember her (they've never been close) and that the effort will drain her and destabilise her emotionally or provoke delusions or hallucinations (sometimes mom sees people or things that aren't there). Am I overprotective?