My husband has moved his mother into our house, (I owned the house before we got married), she is a paranoid schizophrenic, (also she is just generally not a nice person)and she stays up all night with her TV and radio on not to mention her light and thr bathroom light all night long. I haven't gotten a good night's sleep since she moved in, she will slam the cabinet doors when ahe cant find what shes looking for (which is right in front of her) she's VERY demanding and will confront me at 10:30 pm on Saturday about going to the bank which I tried ALL day Friday to take her to yet she refused to go to. Now he says he wants a divorce because he can't live like this, he quit his job to take care of her and I pay all the bills plus he wants me to do all the housework as well which I think is unfair. He says if I make her move out with him I'm cold hearted but she's not my mom, I don't think I should have to care for her if he chooses to move out. Am I in the wrong?
Maybe let the dust settle on these very big events.
The husband may become quite shattered through this & need to rebuild himself into a solid person first. With his own new boundaries towards his Mother. This may take time.
Then, re-establishing your marriage as a 2 person relationship again may take time.