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To keep this short, we are two siblings and my sister moved to another country so I am staying with my elderly parents. Over the years my mothers behaviour started to change and shes becoming difficult to deal with and this has caused a strain in our relationship. I am in a situation where I am not able to manage her health/medication since she lost trust in me. She has not been diagnosed with any mental issue but I knew for years shes not happy with her life with her husband. This week was very difficult for us as she also had Bells Palsy for a year now and it affected her mental wellbeing. We took her to a doctor and he prescribed her three medication and in few days she started having side affect including back pain so we had to go back to the doctor and he cancelled one out. The muscle relaxer is still on the list and she has been taking it for about 8 days. Yesterday out of no where she woke up from a nap and she was very agitated and asking me which medication i gave her since I am the one who is managing and giving her the medication, so I showed it to her and she was saying her sleep was not normal and I wouldn't admit that I made a mistake by giving her wrong medicine. So I showed her the doctors prescription and said that was directed by him and not me, I was just following instruction. But she insist and the argument became very chaotic. It continued till this morning when I woke up and said good morning she replied then asked where is her handbag and the medication. I told her I dont have the bag and the medication with my dad. We decided to stop with the medication because of the inconsistency with her behaviour and also the muscle relaxer could have the side affect shes having. Today I just pushed away from her and avoided her as much as possible and she got upset telling my sister that I didnt talk to her today. I just couldnt my chest feels heavy and I am very emotionally drained from all of the argument that happened yesterday. If this is dementia behaviour why the aggression against me? I have developed mental issues because of the fights and argument and I just want to be left alone which is also a problem. My aunt, her sister, also had similar situation with her daughter, where her daughter was providing support to her mum via an agency, because of how her mum thinks about her. Unfortunately in my country we dont have elderly care that I could hire to help my mum since she doesnt trust me.

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Mom has dementia and they become argumentative and like to pick fights. It's the nature of the beast. Don't fight, just walk away and isolate yourself for a while. Get her to a neurologist and get her something for her dementia.
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I had Bells Palsy and it did go away on its own after a few months.
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How old is your mom and which muscle relaxant did they put her on?
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Artistf: Prayers forthcoming.
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Hi, There are a few things happening. Bells Palsy could be from a virus and go away on its own (I had it). The new medications could have side effects that are causing issues and you may want to check them out and I see that you did that, however, there may need to be something she needs to be on. Everyone is different and not all meds are the same for each person. They call practicing medicine for a reason, not doctoring. It's not perfect, but you are your own advocate. (it took me 17 years to get help for myself and ended up with a rare disorder). How about an intern, assistant or just another person to come in and help with research or calls or cleaning etc. to help with some of the stress for you.
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Place your mom in assisted living and get some therapy for yourself.
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I believe you asked this very same or similar question the other day. Did not any of the responses then help you at all?
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