I moved my mom into my home about 8 months ago. My dad passed away a year ago and she has really declined since then. Before she came to me, she fell which resulted in a hospital stay. Bloodwork showed she was extremely anemic. She went to rehab for a few weeks and then came to live with me. Now her bloodwork is very good as I am feeding her 3 balanced meals a day. My problem is that I cannot get her to do anything other than watch tv all day. She won’t exercise, come sit with us, eat meals with us. We offer to take her on car rides, walks, or just sit in the porch. She says no to everything. The doctor prescribed an antidepressant but she won’t take them. She says she is not depressed. She just lays in bed and gets weaker and weaker. We have had PT come in many times and she will do exercises for them but not for me or herself. She says she does not want to go to a nursing home but wants to stay with us. This is fine with me but I just need to know if I’m handling everything correctly. She won’t shower - lord knows I’ve tried. She just says no. She does a bird bath but I’m worried about cleanliness. She has had a few UTIs and I feel that it must be from not bathing properly. I installed a bidet toilet seat to help with that but have not told her yet. I know she won’t want to use it. We have talked about the bathing issue many times. She doesn’t want an aide to come bathe her and she doesn’t want my help with toileting or bathing. So can I just let her continue like this? I’m trying to respect her but this is so hard. She is 82. Thanks for any advice.