Background: I am fairly new to caregiving (<1yr), I had to take over the responsibility to care for my mother (mid 60's, diagnosed with SCA [type unknown at the moment], and diabetes-Type II) because my grandma (who's in her late 80's) couldn't do it anymore (for her own health sake). I understand that her SCA comes with a range of mobility problems (she is wheelchair bound, can only stand to transfer), so there isn't much I can expect of her on that field. However, I have a problem with her eating habits (always have). I've had several family members with diabetes, so is not unknown territory, and I try to provide healthy options, but she also doesn't like to eat a lot of healthy things (no veggies, limited fruits, no fish, etc.). When I cook, she only eats a handful and then says she doesn't want anymore. Yesterday she flat out said she didn't like the yellow rice! But place junk food in front of her and she will devour it. Put sweets and snacks and she'll make it a meal. I know she's diabetic and should have snacks handy, but she can't do portions! She'd rather eat popcorn, Ice Cream, bagels, than a proper meal!
She's gone down like 3 clothe sizes in the last year! Since I moved her from her hometown I had to set a new team of doctors and I approached the eating habits with him at the beginning and he pretty much dismissed my concerns and said she'll eat what she wants to eat, as little as she wants! I may need to switch that doctor because he also suggested she do excercises (she has SCA, advanced, can't coordinate movements, balance issues). She takes 6 different medications each day.
Do I really just let her eat whatever and how little she wants? The only meal she does decently are breakfasts (eggs, pancakes, waffles, cereals). Any one else gone through this?